A few weeks ago I seen a post on instagram, I cannot for the life of me remember who posted it but it seriously sunk in with me and I haven’t stopped thinking about it.
So naturally I need to share with you guys.
The post talked about how being thin AND being healthy does not define your worth.
For the last year or so I have come to the conclusion that being thin doesn’t define your worth. Because It really doesn’t and I will discuss why. But the part about health really opened my eyes because I never really gave it much thought before.
I guess because being thin and being healthy are different topics? And being healthy can mean so many different things to different people.
For some people healthy means not eating anything processed, only “real”, “clean” foods. For others it means allowing yourself to eat whatever you like. Some it means more mental than physical or more physical then mental.
The bottom line is, whether your healthy, radiant, glowing, with no health complications, no high blood pressure or heart disease, or whether your struggling with diabetes, lupus, MS, anxiety, depression, etc., It does NOT determine what kind of person you are.
It does not determine your worth.
When I was in university and even before then, I was OBSESSED with being healthy.
I said no to chocolate, chips, pizza, ice cream, anything that I thought was “bad” for me and would make me fat, raise my blood sugar or give me wrinkles. I worked out everyday, made sure I never missed a day, drank lots of water, took vitamins, drank healthy teas, you name it.
For me that was healthy. I was the picture of health because I never ate anything bad and I exercised.
Another awful thing, was that I thought because I ate the cleanest and I was known as the athletic gym girl, that it made me more worthy than others, and I was better than a lot of people.
I sucked I know.
But In reality, I didn’t truly love myself, I restricted a lot of foods because I was worried what they would do to my body, I had a fear of being fat, I worked out a lot out of hate not love, and I missed out on a lot of social events because of it.
On the inside, I wasn’t truly happy and I wasn’t free. And I definitely WAS not a better person because I had a fitter body or classified myself as healthy.
To be honest I don’t think I really was all that healthy. My mental health was absolutely being compromised which is NOT the definition of health. Its the complete opposite.
Being thin and what I thought was healthy did not make me more worthy or a better person… It just made me obsessed.
Diet culture makes us believe that we need to be thin in order to be happy and to be worthy of love, enjoyment, fulfillment and confidence no matter what you have to do to get there. Which is a complete load of bullshit.
Trying so hard and doing everything possible to change the way our body looks is the furthest thing from self-love, and taking care of ourselves. This is not what healthy should be portrayed as.
Just because someone is in a larger body doesn’t mean they don’t deserve love, or happiness. Being thin definitely does not mean you are healthy and happy or taking good care of yourself.
If someone in a thin body is a heavy drinker, smoker, does drugs, stays up all night, does that make her healthier then someone in a larger body who eats well, gets enough exercise, meditates, reads, gets 7-8 hours of sleep every night? Mmmmm not quite.
Someone in a thin body and someone in a larger body could eat the same, do the same physical activity and people automatically assume the thinner person is healthier. Which is really not necessarily the case.
Or what if a super fit person restricts herself to 1200 calories a day, spends hours at the gym with no social life, is scared to eat certain foods and has a fear of gaining weight so she goes to extremes to stay thin. Do you think that person is healthier than a person in a larger body who intuitively eats, and does workouts that she loves?
Another thing that really grinds my gears is that larger people are prescribed the same behaviours that is diagnosed as anorexic in thin people.
Your weight and your health does not = your worth.
We need to stop making assumptions that just because someone is in a larger body means they are automatically diabetic, have heart issues, have high blood pressure, eats like crap, etc.
What we DO need to focus on is stop following so many rules around food and exercise that diet culture claims is healthy. Like eating 1200-1400 calories a day, being 140 pounds or less or fitting into a size 2.
Whats really healthy is eating foods we crave, and eating enough so we are full and satisfied. Knowing its okay to have that extra slice of pizza or go for ice cream. Healthy is finding exercise that feels good for you, not for someone else so its fun and enjoyable.
Stop weighing yourself, stop measuring the size of your hips or obsessing how many calories you burned for the day.
No number will ever tell you what you are worth, how amazing you are, or how much happiness and love you truly deserve.